Category Archives: Family

That Was The Year That Was [Well 49 Weeks Of It Anyway]

Three weeks until 2019 shakes me warmly by the hand and, I very much hope, promises to treat me way better than 2018 has treated me. Most of this year I’ve been drowning, not waving, and it’s not easy to … Continue reading

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Excuses, Excuses

The arguments I used to have with the mother of my first child were more distressing, powerful and frightening than pretty much any others I’ve had in my life. Neither one of us was especially adept in the art of … Continue reading

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Cave Of Shadows

Eight days on from the news of my father’s death I find myself in uncharted waters. As I grapple with the need to forgive a ghost and lay some of my own ghosts to rest I am barely held together … Continue reading

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I’ve Loved, I’ve Laughed, And Cried

If the past is another country how come EasyJet don’t fly people there? As a person who builds the present on a bedrock of nostalgia which is then terraformed by concerns about the future, I have this time travel thing … Continue reading

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It’s A Man’s Man’s Man’s World?

Men of my generation may understand what I mean when I say part of the problem between my father and me was the fact that his idea of what constitutes masculinity was rather different to my own. Consequently I spent … Continue reading

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Reflections

Unsurprisingly I’ve spent much of the past day or so considering the impact of the news of the death of my father. While my thoughts have been varied and wide-ranging, encompassing good, bad and indifferent memories, my emotions have been … Continue reading

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The Passing Of Time

Here’s another axiom after the err/forgive idiom of my last blog post – procrastination is the thief of time. Just as I had reconciled myself to making peace with somebody who never took responsibility for their part in our estrangement … Continue reading

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